Pedophilia, also called pedophilic disorder, psychosexual disorder in which an adult has sexual fantasies about or engages in sexual acts with a prepubescent child of the same or opposite sex.
In most cases, the adult is known to the child and may be a family member, stepparent, or a person with authority. Looking or touching seems more prevalent than genital contact. Pedophiles may be attracted only to children or also adults, some are attracted only to children who are related to them.
What are the signs and symptoms of pedophilia?
Pedophilia is usually detected by self after puberty in which the patient’s sexual orientation focused on children, not adults. Patients can not determine their sexual orientation,and then feel fear themselves. They also often experience social discrimination; difficult for them to get involved in the community and connect with others. As a result, this makes patients interested in children because they are still fairly plain and not judgmental like adults.
In recent years, scientists and the public have a tendency to study the psychological issues; some patients are more open to their illness for the sake of science. According to patients, the symptoms of pedophilia among others feeling of inferiority, isolation and even depression; they fear their sexual orientation known, so they isolate themselves from others.
The patients consider their passion wrong and illegal to be met. Thus, they always control themselves and finding a safe way to satisfy themselves. Some cases of violence in children often involves a mental illness such as schizophrenia and cognitive distortions. On the other hand, some criminal cases in children is not a pedophile. Patients can suffer from other mental illnesses such as anxiety, depression, mood disorders, and excessive use of stimulants.
How To Identify A Pedophiles
1. Know that most child molesters are known by children who persecute
Thirty percent of children who had sexually abused persecuted by family members, and 60 percent were persecuted by adults they know, but are not family members. This means that only 10 percent of sexually abused children are targeted by strangers.
- In most cases, a child molester turns out someone known to the child in school or other activities, such as neighbors, coaches, members of the church, music instructor, or caregiver.
- Family members such as mother, father, grandmother, grandfather, aunt, uncle, cousins, step-parent, and so forth can also be a sexual predator.
2. Know the general characteristics of a child molester.
Although anyone can be a child molester, most child molesters are male, no matter male or female victim. Many sexual predators have a history of abuse in their own past, either physical or sexual.
- Some also have a mental illness or personality.
- Men heterosexuals and homosexuals alike could be a child molester. The idea that homosexual men more likely to be child molesters is a myth.
- Persecutors child molest women are usually more men than women.
3. Note the common behavior exhibited by a child molester.
Pedophile child molesters usually do not show much interest in adults such as his interest in young children. They may have a job that allowed him to be around children under a certain age, or devise other ways to spend time with small children by acting as coach, caregiver or neighbor who tried to help.
- Persecutors children usually talk about or treat a child like an adult. They may consider a small child as an adult or a lover.
- Persecutors pedophile child often say that they love all the small children or feel like a little boy.
Protecting Your Children from Predators
1. Keep an eye on your child’s extracurricular activities
Involved as much as possible in your child’s life is the best way to protect them from child molesters. They will look for vulnerable children and did not get much attention from parents or going to convince parents that it is not harmful to the child. Coming into the match, exercises and drills, accompany the excursion and trip out, and spend some time to recognize adults in your child’s life. Show that you are parents involved and always there.
2. Install a hidden camera if you hire a nanny
There are times when you can not supervise, so use other equipment to make sure your child is safe. Attach a hidden camera in your home so indecent activity could be detected. No matter if you really feel to know someone, you should be aware of the safety of your children.
3. Teach your kids about online safety
Make sure your child knows predators often pose as children or teenagers to lure children online. Keep an eye on your child’s Internet use, create rules to limit the time her “chat”. Perform regular discussions with your child about his friend who communicate online.
4. Make sure your child feel supported emotionally
- Persecutors child will ask the child to keep a secret from his parents.
- Make sure your children understand that if someone asked him to keep a secret from you it is not because the child would be scolded, but because the person who asked him to keep a secret to know that what he did was wrong.
- Because small children who do not receive attention very easily attacked by predators, make sure you spend more time with your child and she feels supported. Take the time to talk to your child every day and trying to establish an open and trusting.
- Express your interest in all activities of your child, including school work, extracurricular activities, hobbies, and other interests.
- Make sure your child knows that he can tell you anything, and you always want to talk.
5. Teach your children know contiguity indecent
Most parents using the “good touch, bad touch, touch a secret”. This means teaching your children that there are some decent touches, such as a pat on the back or clapping (high five); there are some unwanted touches or “bad”, such as a punch or a kick; and there is also a touch of secret, that touches the child was asked to keep secret. Use this or another method to teach your child that some touches are not good, and if this happens, it must notify you as soon as possible.
6. Identify if there was something strange with your child.
If you notice your child to behave differently, to pursue the case to find out what happened. Ask your child regularly about her day, including asking if there was a touch of good, bad, or confidential happened that day, will help open the communication cord. Never ignore it if your child says that he was touched inappropriately or did not believe anybody adults. Trust your child first.